When You Know, You Know--You Know??

When I read a JDate profile, I know. I don't necessarily know that there will be chemistry, but I know whether or not I want to meet that person. And when I don't, I just don't. Unless the guy is much more expressive in his email than he is in his profile. But largely, the profile's an accurate reflection of the man.

When it happens that I'm not interested, I try to be gently dismissive and spare the feelings of the persistent-without-a-clue. I think we've all been there, bombarded by emails from one person who you have absolutely no interest in, as a friend or otherwise. It's so hard...but sometimes it comes to the point where you actually have to just say something.

I may be at that point with someone. I never gave him any indication that I was interested, but he sends me an email at least once a day. And you can tell he's trying to be funny. But he's trying too hard. I might have to say something. What should I say? I don't want to be mean. But I want to be honest. Should I even say anything? Someone once told me that if you're not interested, you're not under any obligation to say, "no thanks, not interested..."

Any experience to share? Suggestions are welcome...

When You Know, You Know--You Know??

When I read a JDate profile, I know. I don't necessarily know that there will be chemistry, but I know whether or not I want to meet that person. And when I don't, I just don't. Unless the guy is much more expressive in his email than he is in his profile. But largely, the profile's an accurate reflection of the man.

When it happens that I'm not interested, I try to be gently dismissive and spare the feelings of the persistent-without-a-clue. I think we've all been there, bombarded by emails from one person who you have absolutely no interest in, as a friend or otherwise. It's so hard...but sometimes it comes to the point where you actually have to just say something.

I may be at that point with someone. I never gave him any indication that I was interested, but he sends me an email at least once a day. And you can tell he's trying to be funny. But he's trying too hard. I might have to say something. What should I say? I don't want to be mean. But I want to be honest. Should I even say anything? Someone once told me that if you're not interested, you're not under any obligation to say, "no thanks, not interested..."

Any experience to share? Suggestions are welcome...