Tuesday, August 03, 2004

BLOGCRUSH GROOVE: ELECTRONIC BLOGALOO

Yeah, I'm not sure what that header means.

Have you ever had a Blogcrush? (See Bloghead for some explanations of what this might entail.)

Have you ever fallen in love with someone through their writing? (Obviously, this happens to me all the time, and is the likely explanation for why my number of blog visitors continues to rise and the number of comments continues to fall--my blogcrushers are intimidated by my blend of wit and wisdom, and are afraid to approach me...I assume this is also true in real life...)

Have you ever transitioned a Blogcrush into a relationship? Was it all it was blogged up to be, or did you encounter disappointment? If your Blogrelationship thrived, did you blog about it, or did you keep it between the two of you? And when Blogcrushes go bad and split up, do the readers suffer?

I'm curious about this phenomenon. If you have stories, please pass them on, via comments or email. Who knows--you could end up as part of a future column, or just as entertainment before Queen Esther. Either, a noble purpose. Please, share.

18 Comments:

At 1:58 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Caryn said...

I had a blogcrush. I love love love his writing. I devoured his whole blog over a few months, and coulnd't wait for his next posts. We eventually met at a blogger bash, and he was so handsome! Definitely edible. Soon after, we went on a date. We both had a good time and had a lot to talk about. But I was disappointed because, as much as I liked his writing and how attractive he was, the spark just wasn't there on the date. For either of us, I think. We even got a little drunk and still no kissy-kissy. Was weird. But we're still friendly. And he does have a girlfriend now, so good for him. :D (I am purposely not linking to said blogcrush.)

 
At 2:02 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Caryn said...

Didn't answer your questions ...

* Have you ever transitioned a Blogcrush into a relationship? Would have liked to, but it didn't happen.

* Was it all it was blogged up to be, or did you encounter disappointment? I was a little disappointed, yes, as all unkissed crushes are, but it wasn't ugly or anything, so could have been a lot worse.

* If your Blogrelationship thrived, did you blog about it, or did you keep it between the two of you? I never blogged about the one date we had, no.

 
At 2:54 PM, August 03, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, for Alex & I: Yes, yes, and yes.

 
At 2:55 PM, August 03, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I HATE these new blogger comments. That was, me, dahling - deb (smitten.typepad.com).

 
At 3:00 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger writersbloc gal said...

i've fallen in love with people's writing, but not yet over the blogosphere. i'm somewhat new to reading people's blogs, or rather people whom i've never met. but falling in love with people (or rather one person) over writing has proven to be the most intense experience ever. it didn't work out for me, in fact it burned me to a crisp, but the whole rush and intensity were all-consuming and wonderful, though painful too.

 
At 3:03 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger the fbg said...

I got in a huge debate about "blogcrushes" on my old blog, insisting they weren't real. My now-dear friend Joe developed a "blog-crush" on me (so posted) that wound up being a three-way blog-crush with me, him, and his real-life friend. It led to lots of fun flirtation, drunk IM conversations (some even posted for the joy of all), and even drunk phone converations as we realized we were three of the world's funniest people. (Especially bouncing off each other!)

What's crazy is that I somehow wound up in real-life drama involving their circle of friends. In the end, though, Joe and I became dear friends. He is hilarious, a genius (if a screaming liberal), and someone who understands me well. I look forward to when I actually live in DC (instead of just visiting him there) because he is a riot to hang out with.

But that's the pure kind of blogcrush. There is another, genuinely romantic definition. One day, this crazy Russian man started emailing me about something I posted. He wound up being an irresistable correspondent and I lovedlovedloved emailing him. Then I loved it when he called. Then he came to visit me. Then we really fell in love. Since then we have been together in four different major cities in the US, and soon we'll hit some abroad. It's a whirlwind, like what you'd expect from the blogosphere. But it's the best thing that's ever happened to me.

I hesitate to write much about it, like I hesitate to talk about things that really mean a lot to me. But I think my readers are aware that we are very much in love, and not a second of disappointment yet. It's not a secret, but it's not something I'm totally open about (before this comment, right?).

So there we have it. I'm officially out, too. :) All for you, Esther!

 
At 3:22 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Michael said...

Oh, Esther! You fell in love with me? I was afraid that would happen. My magnetism is so ... magnetic.

And, the truth be told, I love reading your site. It's a daily highlight, even on vacation.

 
At 6:23 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger annabel lee said...

I've never fallen in crush with someone based on his writing, but I could definitely see it happening. (Well, I sort of fell in crush with e.e.cummings, but he wasn't a blogger.)

(And btw - you're doing better than I as far as comments are concerned. The number of distinct individuals who have commented on mine is about 5. And that includes me.)

 
At 6:43 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger H (the underachiever) said...

Esther, I want you to be my blog wife!

 
At 7:19 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Coelecanth said...

Well, the answers to your questions are: yes I've had blogcrushes and no nothing came of them. One of the joys of blog-o-sphere fantasy relationships is that, like all fantasies, they're perfect. Messy little things like feelings, compromise and toilet seat altitude don't enter into it. Safe and fun, I wouldn't want to spoil that.

I love reading your blog, but I don't usually have anything to say. Lurker deluxe, that's me. It's a case of being attracted to the different. I'm not Jewish, not American, not a writer, and not dating and thus I find your posts facinating, but have very little to say about them. Please don't let the lack of commments deter you, we're out here and we've got mad Kvetch crushes. :)

 
At 7:53 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Frumdad said...

A little off topic:

We visit because the writing is both insightful and excellent. A lot of times we don't comment unless we have something worthwhile to say.

--FD

 
At 8:03 PM, August 03, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Once, I finished a book of short stories, put the book down on the table, and thought to myself: I want to marry this man. I was totally in love. But naturally since I had no way of meeting a published author, this love evaporated as quickly as it had arrived. (And
this was his first book, so I couldn't even read anything else of his to try to sustain my love.)

 
At 8:44 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Dayli said...

Like many other commenters: I've had crushes on people I've known solely through their writing - be it letters, emails, or newspapers. In one case (journalist) I wrote him a letter in response to an article and we went on a few dates. It was very disappointing. He did not misrepresent himself, but he lacked the confidence in real life that he displayed in his writings.

As for the blogosphere - I seem to find mostly women's blogs which I find interesting... not many men bloggers out there have moved me...

Having said that - several readers have sent me emails after reading my blog with some personal insight and touching comments. No, not crushes, but certainly potential friends :-)

And as for the number of comments on your site -you certainly have me beat! ;-)

 
At 10:35 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Drew said...

I refuse to have a blogcrush until Sarah Vowell gets off her ass and starts blogging.

 
At 9:05 AM, August 04, 2004, Blogger Julie said...

I'm with Dayli. I very much tend to gravitate towards female bloggers--much like I tend to gravitate towards female writers in general. I just relate to them better.

While I would certainly not be opposed to crushing on male bloggers (I mean, c'mon, doesn't every single blogger secretly fantasize that the perfect person will read his/her site and fall madly in love?), more of my crushes are of the friendship variety--the "I would love to be friends with this person in real life!" kind of crush. Yes, I am a dork. But not ashamed to admit it.

 
At 10:23 AM, August 04, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I too have had blogcrushes - of the platonic and non-platonic variety. I've yet to meet any of them in real time, so I'm sort of clueless as to what to expect. Not that that's any different from my regular dating experiences.....

Caroline - Caffeine & Nicotine http://stimulant.blogdrive.com

 
At 1:17 PM, August 04, 2004, Blogger petitchou said...

I guess my story is a little different. I met someone, was immediately interested, figured it wouldn't go anywhere because of various hurdles, but then I started reading his blog and fell MADLY in love. I was awed that another person on this little planet could have some of the same thoughts I do.

We've overcome our primary hurdles (age and geography) and have been together almost a year now. Both of us have only blogged about each other peripherally or metaphorically. Our blogs are well-known to our family and friends and there are certain things they don't need to read.

 
At 3:12 PM, August 24, 2004, Blogger Anna Broadway said...

I’m hoping to be the object of a blogcrush. Does that count? ;)

 

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Tuesday, August 03, 2004

BLOGCRUSH GROOVE: ELECTRONIC BLOGALOO

Yeah, I'm not sure what that header means.

Have you ever had a Blogcrush? (See Bloghead for some explanations of what this might entail.)

Have you ever fallen in love with someone through their writing? (Obviously, this happens to me all the time, and is the likely explanation for why my number of blog visitors continues to rise and the number of comments continues to fall--my blogcrushers are intimidated by my blend of wit and wisdom, and are afraid to approach me...I assume this is also true in real life...)

Have you ever transitioned a Blogcrush into a relationship? Was it all it was blogged up to be, or did you encounter disappointment? If your Blogrelationship thrived, did you blog about it, or did you keep it between the two of you? And when Blogcrushes go bad and split up, do the readers suffer?

I'm curious about this phenomenon. If you have stories, please pass them on, via comments or email. Who knows--you could end up as part of a future column, or just as entertainment before Queen Esther. Either, a noble purpose. Please, share.

18 Comments:

At 1:58 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Caryn said...

I had a blogcrush. I love love love his writing. I devoured his whole blog over a few months, and coulnd't wait for his next posts. We eventually met at a blogger bash, and he was so handsome! Definitely edible. Soon after, we went on a date. We both had a good time and had a lot to talk about. But I was disappointed because, as much as I liked his writing and how attractive he was, the spark just wasn't there on the date. For either of us, I think. We even got a little drunk and still no kissy-kissy. Was weird. But we're still friendly. And he does have a girlfriend now, so good for him. :D (I am purposely not linking to said blogcrush.)

 
At 2:02 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Caryn said...

Didn't answer your questions ...

* Have you ever transitioned a Blogcrush into a relationship? Would have liked to, but it didn't happen.

* Was it all it was blogged up to be, or did you encounter disappointment? I was a little disappointed, yes, as all unkissed crushes are, but it wasn't ugly or anything, so could have been a lot worse.

* If your Blogrelationship thrived, did you blog about it, or did you keep it between the two of you? I never blogged about the one date we had, no.

 
At 2:54 PM, August 03, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, for Alex & I: Yes, yes, and yes.

 
At 2:55 PM, August 03, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I HATE these new blogger comments. That was, me, dahling - deb (smitten.typepad.com).

 
At 3:00 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger writersbloc gal said...

i've fallen in love with people's writing, but not yet over the blogosphere. i'm somewhat new to reading people's blogs, or rather people whom i've never met. but falling in love with people (or rather one person) over writing has proven to be the most intense experience ever. it didn't work out for me, in fact it burned me to a crisp, but the whole rush and intensity were all-consuming and wonderful, though painful too.

 
At 3:03 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger the fbg said...

I got in a huge debate about "blogcrushes" on my old blog, insisting they weren't real. My now-dear friend Joe developed a "blog-crush" on me (so posted) that wound up being a three-way blog-crush with me, him, and his real-life friend. It led to lots of fun flirtation, drunk IM conversations (some even posted for the joy of all), and even drunk phone converations as we realized we were three of the world's funniest people. (Especially bouncing off each other!)

What's crazy is that I somehow wound up in real-life drama involving their circle of friends. In the end, though, Joe and I became dear friends. He is hilarious, a genius (if a screaming liberal), and someone who understands me well. I look forward to when I actually live in DC (instead of just visiting him there) because he is a riot to hang out with.

But that's the pure kind of blogcrush. There is another, genuinely romantic definition. One day, this crazy Russian man started emailing me about something I posted. He wound up being an irresistable correspondent and I lovedlovedloved emailing him. Then I loved it when he called. Then he came to visit me. Then we really fell in love. Since then we have been together in four different major cities in the US, and soon we'll hit some abroad. It's a whirlwind, like what you'd expect from the blogosphere. But it's the best thing that's ever happened to me.

I hesitate to write much about it, like I hesitate to talk about things that really mean a lot to me. But I think my readers are aware that we are very much in love, and not a second of disappointment yet. It's not a secret, but it's not something I'm totally open about (before this comment, right?).

So there we have it. I'm officially out, too. :) All for you, Esther!

 
At 3:22 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Michael said...

Oh, Esther! You fell in love with me? I was afraid that would happen. My magnetism is so ... magnetic.

And, the truth be told, I love reading your site. It's a daily highlight, even on vacation.

 
At 6:23 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger annabel lee said...

I've never fallen in crush with someone based on his writing, but I could definitely see it happening. (Well, I sort of fell in crush with e.e.cummings, but he wasn't a blogger.)

(And btw - you're doing better than I as far as comments are concerned. The number of distinct individuals who have commented on mine is about 5. And that includes me.)

 
At 6:43 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger H (the underachiever) said...

Esther, I want you to be my blog wife!

 
At 7:19 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Coelecanth said...

Well, the answers to your questions are: yes I've had blogcrushes and no nothing came of them. One of the joys of blog-o-sphere fantasy relationships is that, like all fantasies, they're perfect. Messy little things like feelings, compromise and toilet seat altitude don't enter into it. Safe and fun, I wouldn't want to spoil that.

I love reading your blog, but I don't usually have anything to say. Lurker deluxe, that's me. It's a case of being attracted to the different. I'm not Jewish, not American, not a writer, and not dating and thus I find your posts facinating, but have very little to say about them. Please don't let the lack of commments deter you, we're out here and we've got mad Kvetch crushes. :)

 
At 7:53 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Frumdad said...

A little off topic:

We visit because the writing is both insightful and excellent. A lot of times we don't comment unless we have something worthwhile to say.

--FD

 
At 8:03 PM, August 03, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Once, I finished a book of short stories, put the book down on the table, and thought to myself: I want to marry this man. I was totally in love. But naturally since I had no way of meeting a published author, this love evaporated as quickly as it had arrived. (And
this was his first book, so I couldn't even read anything else of his to try to sustain my love.)

 
At 8:44 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Dayli said...

Like many other commenters: I've had crushes on people I've known solely through their writing - be it letters, emails, or newspapers. In one case (journalist) I wrote him a letter in response to an article and we went on a few dates. It was very disappointing. He did not misrepresent himself, but he lacked the confidence in real life that he displayed in his writings.

As for the blogosphere - I seem to find mostly women's blogs which I find interesting... not many men bloggers out there have moved me...

Having said that - several readers have sent me emails after reading my blog with some personal insight and touching comments. No, not crushes, but certainly potential friends :-)

And as for the number of comments on your site -you certainly have me beat! ;-)

 
At 10:35 PM, August 03, 2004, Blogger Drew said...

I refuse to have a blogcrush until Sarah Vowell gets off her ass and starts blogging.

 
At 9:05 AM, August 04, 2004, Blogger Julie said...

I'm with Dayli. I very much tend to gravitate towards female bloggers--much like I tend to gravitate towards female writers in general. I just relate to them better.

While I would certainly not be opposed to crushing on male bloggers (I mean, c'mon, doesn't every single blogger secretly fantasize that the perfect person will read his/her site and fall madly in love?), more of my crushes are of the friendship variety--the "I would love to be friends with this person in real life!" kind of crush. Yes, I am a dork. But not ashamed to admit it.

 
At 10:23 AM, August 04, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I too have had blogcrushes - of the platonic and non-platonic variety. I've yet to meet any of them in real time, so I'm sort of clueless as to what to expect. Not that that's any different from my regular dating experiences.....

Caroline - Caffeine & Nicotine http://stimulant.blogdrive.com

 
At 1:17 PM, August 04, 2004, Blogger petitchou said...

I guess my story is a little different. I met someone, was immediately interested, figured it wouldn't go anywhere because of various hurdles, but then I started reading his blog and fell MADLY in love. I was awed that another person on this little planet could have some of the same thoughts I do.

We've overcome our primary hurdles (age and geography) and have been together almost a year now. Both of us have only blogged about each other peripherally or metaphorically. Our blogs are well-known to our family and friends and there are certain things they don't need to read.

 
At 3:12 PM, August 24, 2004, Blogger Anna Broadway said...

I’m hoping to be the object of a blogcrush. Does that count? ;)

 

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