Monday, December 06, 2004

"YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE JEWISH...

...to love JDate," the NY Times proclaimed on Sunday. (My reaction here.)

I would posit that you do have to be Jewish to hate it. And hate to love it. And love to hate it. Actually, on second thought, that's just hate it. But maybe that's just me.

But it's not! Do a search for "I hate Jdate" and JDaters Anonymous isn't even on the list. OK, so My Urban Kvetch is number one, but you catch my drift.

And I have to give a special Urban Kvetch shoutout to fellow Upper West Sider Steve Silver, who has the funniest definition of JDate I've read so far:

"A buddy of mine dubbed it "The Video Game"- because you click through it, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, and object of the game is to save the princess. "

Of course, we're not all princesses in the "trapped in a tower" sense or even the more offensive "enslaved to capitalism" sense. But the idea of JDate as a video game really appealed to me...I've long felt that the JDate chat room is like Tetris...as each comment "falls down the screen," you have to read it, figure out where it goes, and react with your own witticism about whatever the topic is. Luckily, topics run the vast gamut from flatulence to fellatio, so you never have to dig too deep into your storehouse of clever to participate. Continuing with the video game analogy, you "die" when no one in the chatroom will have a conversation with you. They ignore you and finally you give up, and say "ok, then. good night." And no one responds.

Is it any wonder the non-Jews want in on the fun?


5 Comments:

At 3:06 AM, December 07, 2004, Blogger Jack's Shack said...

What is the point of JDate if they open it up. Of course it is not like they are checking the men to see if they are circumcised or watching the girls to see if they light up when they hear Aishes Chayil.

 
At 10:16 AM, December 08, 2004, Blogger Andrea said...

I once spoke to a guy in a jdate chatroom (when it was free to do so) who wasn't Jewish. In fact, I think his name was "Christopher". I wanted to ask, "Dude, what's the point?"

I hate jdate. In fact, I'm sure that if I search my livejournal archives (which I've decided is not nearly as cool as blogger but I can't be bothered to make the switch entirely) I'll find a really good, verbose, seething rant.
I cancelled my account after they sent an offensive email suggesting that if I was really serious about finding my besheret I'd pay extra money. That's when all of the services on the website that used to be free stopped being so. Consequently, I fumed, "Then what's the point of asking (in the profile section) what kind of relationship that one is looking for?" When I emailed them I got an auto-reply. I don't think that it's acceptable that the only way to contact customer service at a website that provides a service is via telephone.
There were other things that made me really angry too.

 
At 11:46 AM, December 08, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jack, just because a girl doesn't light up when she hears Eishet Chayil doesn't mean she isn't the contemporary version thereof. But I see your point.

Andrea, believe me, I understand. Even as a writer who contacted JDate as a member of the press, I have been frustrated over and over again by their lack of responsiveness, and their adhesion to pre-formulated replies. You'll want to check out http://jdatersanonymous.blogspot.com as well

 
At 12:05 PM, January 04, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said...

JDate is the site that everyone loves to hate. What would it be like if they had a section on their site for jdate disasters. Perhaps they changed to an automated reply system because the staff wasn't getting any work done reading all the complaints and horror stories.

A friend passed me a link on yet another jdate bashing site. http://www.jdirt.com/add_ihate.php There isn't a lot there but some posts are really funny and true.

I think jdate is a necessary evil. We'd be kvetching about dating whether jdate existed or not, unfortunately jdate gives us what to complain about even when we have no dates.

 
At 3:54 PM, January 04, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said...

JDate is the site that everyone loves to hate. What would it be like if they had a section on their site for jdate disasters. Perhaps they changed to an automated reply system because the staff wasn't getting any work done reading all the complaints and horror stories.

A friend passed me a link on yet another jdate bashing site. http://www.jdirt.com/add_ihate.php There isn't a lot there but some posts are really funny and true.

I think jdate is a necessary evil. We'd be kvetching about dating whether jdate existed or not, unfortunately jdate gives us what to complain about even when we have no dates.

 

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Monday, December 06, 2004

"YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE JEWISH...

...to love JDate," the NY Times proclaimed on Sunday. (My reaction here.)

I would posit that you do have to be Jewish to hate it. And hate to love it. And love to hate it. Actually, on second thought, that's just hate it. But maybe that's just me.

But it's not! Do a search for "I hate Jdate" and JDaters Anonymous isn't even on the list. OK, so My Urban Kvetch is number one, but you catch my drift.

And I have to give a special Urban Kvetch shoutout to fellow Upper West Sider Steve Silver, who has the funniest definition of JDate I've read so far:

"A buddy of mine dubbed it "The Video Game"- because you click through it, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, and object of the game is to save the princess. "

Of course, we're not all princesses in the "trapped in a tower" sense or even the more offensive "enslaved to capitalism" sense. But the idea of JDate as a video game really appealed to me...I've long felt that the JDate chat room is like Tetris...as each comment "falls down the screen," you have to read it, figure out where it goes, and react with your own witticism about whatever the topic is. Luckily, topics run the vast gamut from flatulence to fellatio, so you never have to dig too deep into your storehouse of clever to participate. Continuing with the video game analogy, you "die" when no one in the chatroom will have a conversation with you. They ignore you and finally you give up, and say "ok, then. good night." And no one responds.

Is it any wonder the non-Jews want in on the fun?


5 Comments:

At 3:06 AM, December 07, 2004, Blogger Jack's Shack said...

What is the point of JDate if they open it up. Of course it is not like they are checking the men to see if they are circumcised or watching the girls to see if they light up when they hear Aishes Chayil.

 
At 10:16 AM, December 08, 2004, Blogger Andrea said...

I once spoke to a guy in a jdate chatroom (when it was free to do so) who wasn't Jewish. In fact, I think his name was "Christopher". I wanted to ask, "Dude, what's the point?"

I hate jdate. In fact, I'm sure that if I search my livejournal archives (which I've decided is not nearly as cool as blogger but I can't be bothered to make the switch entirely) I'll find a really good, verbose, seething rant.
I cancelled my account after they sent an offensive email suggesting that if I was really serious about finding my besheret I'd pay extra money. That's when all of the services on the website that used to be free stopped being so. Consequently, I fumed, "Then what's the point of asking (in the profile section) what kind of relationship that one is looking for?" When I emailed them I got an auto-reply. I don't think that it's acceptable that the only way to contact customer service at a website that provides a service is via telephone.
There were other things that made me really angry too.

 
At 11:46 AM, December 08, 2004, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jack, just because a girl doesn't light up when she hears Eishet Chayil doesn't mean she isn't the contemporary version thereof. But I see your point.

Andrea, believe me, I understand. Even as a writer who contacted JDate as a member of the press, I have been frustrated over and over again by their lack of responsiveness, and their adhesion to pre-formulated replies. You'll want to check out http://jdatersanonymous.blogspot.com as well

 
At 12:05 PM, January 04, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said...

JDate is the site that everyone loves to hate. What would it be like if they had a section on their site for jdate disasters. Perhaps they changed to an automated reply system because the staff wasn't getting any work done reading all the complaints and horror stories.

A friend passed me a link on yet another jdate bashing site. http://www.jdirt.com/add_ihate.php There isn't a lot there but some posts are really funny and true.

I think jdate is a necessary evil. We'd be kvetching about dating whether jdate existed or not, unfortunately jdate gives us what to complain about even when we have no dates.

 
At 3:54 PM, January 04, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said...

JDate is the site that everyone loves to hate. What would it be like if they had a section on their site for jdate disasters. Perhaps they changed to an automated reply system because the staff wasn't getting any work done reading all the complaints and horror stories.

A friend passed me a link on yet another jdate bashing site. http://www.jdirt.com/add_ihate.php There isn't a lot there but some posts are really funny and true.

I think jdate is a necessary evil. We'd be kvetching about dating whether jdate existed or not, unfortunately jdate gives us what to complain about even when we have no dates.

 

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